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PROLOGUE

Uphill Both Ways, An Anecdotal Memoir

My Dearest Sarah and Patrick,

Before you is a set of stories about your father.  When you wake up one morning and notice that you are not the towhead kid that you once were, you get a first hand look at your own mortality.  It has long been my intention to leave you both with some tangible evidence of your family heritage.  Yes, we have the ancestry tree that has been passed from one generation to another.  That tells JTus the who and the what of those who lived before us.  But it doesn’t tell us anything about the how and the why of those lives.

I know very little about my parents.  There were very few stories about their respective childhoods and certainly nothing written first hand about those events that shaped their lives, their attitudes, and why they did the things they did.  I am sure that both my father and mother experienced pivotal moments in their childhood that affected them, and their children later in life.  I just don’t know what they are.  I have long believed that my parents did a disservice to their children by not revealing their life’s experiences to us.

This is a collection of stories about those events that helped to shape your father into the person you know.  I’m sure you have wondered why I do things the way I do.  You have probably wondered why I think the way I do.  Some of it comes from the teachings of my parents and some of it comes from my experiences with the unique and wonderful people who I encountered along the way.  It all combines into a picture of the life of a person.

As you know,  your grandfather (my father) died of Alzheimer’s disease.  This in no way means that I will suffer the same fate, however that thought does linger in those dark places where I walk alone.  Because of that possibility, I have started writing these stories earlier than I had originally wanted.  I am not afraid of many things in this life, but I am afraid of leaving you.  I’m afraid of not knowing who you are, not knowing Mom, and not knowing your children.  If that time should come, at least I will have documented the pivotal moments in my life so that you can better understand who I am.  I do this for you out of the deepest respect for who you have become.  It is my hope that you will show that same respect for your own children and document those pivotal moments in your own lives for them.

To me, this is an integral part of parenting.  Mom and I raised you both as best we could.  We continue to be available to you, as you need support, advice, and guidance.  As you will undoubtedly find out, parenting doesn’t stop.  It’s a job that you take on for life and it will probably be the hardest job you will ever have.  But, the proudest moment and the greatest achievement in my life was when I earned the title of parent.

With deepest love and respect,

dad

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1,351 Responses to About

  1. vickgoodwin says:

    What a great legacy for your children. Wonderful and powerful idea!

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    • J T Weaver says:

      Thank you very much. I hope you enjoy the stories that go with this prologue..

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      • JoAnnSandberg says:

        John, I think about you often. I had a bike decorated for that July 4th parade also, but you won!!! I’ve never recovered from that loss!!!!! Joking, of course. Great to read the stories . Love to you, JoAnn(Wright)Sanberg

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        • J T Weaver says:

          Oh my JoAnn! I think about all of us together in those days. The wonders of the modern age that can brings us together after all these years. Look for me on Facebook. It would be great to catch up. And by all means enjoy my stories. They will bring back some memories from those crazy days.

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  2. Deeply thoughtful blog. You tackle difficult subjects with candor and care, no small accomplishment at any stage of life. And thanks for following my blog!

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  3. Hi JT, Thank you so much for visiting and following my blog. It’s a pleasure to meet you and I look forward to your posts. This About is one of the most heartfelt that I’m come across and it’s a lovely gift for your children. ~Steph

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  4. berlioz1935 says:

    Thank you for following my blog. I totally share the sentiments you express here.

    A few month ago I put up a picture of my maternal grandfather and we have had many visitors by our own children and grandchildren. Nobody has asked yet who that person is. If I had put up a picture of a dog someone would probably have said, “Cute!”.

    My grandfather died when I was five and I remember him as a kind old man. What I know about him, not much, has been told to me by others. But I listened and I was always interested.

    We are the total sum of not only our own past but also the past of our ancestors.

    I wish you luck with your writing and hope that your descendants will read your stories.

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  5. Thank you for being brave enough to write your private thoughts in order to encourage us all. I did not have the influence of a loving dad, mom was kind of absent. I raised my two children myself and was determined that they would feel loved. I too chose to write to them as they grew. Both in letter and song. They will have those forever. Thank you for the reminder.

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    • J T Weaver says:

      You are very welcome. You should know that I wrote my stories purely for my children without any thought of the effect they might have on other writers. If writers have been encouraged, I am pleased but, it was never my intention.

      Also, I never wrote to my children. Just as my parents never wrote to me. Only in this one instance, and for the reasons stated in the Forward see the About page

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  6. Geetha B says:

    A lovely introduction and promise of legacy. I hope to have the time to discover past parts of your blog but meanwhile will follow at least your new posts. Be well.

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  7. Kennedy says:

    This introduction made me tear up a little JT. I felt what you’ve described so well about being a caregiver, and about, “…that thought does linger in those dark places where I walk alone.”
    Your blog is a wonderful gift to your children (and random readers like me).

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  8. Elouise says:

    Dear J T Weaver,
    Your project is breathtaking. As the oldest of four daughters, I would love to have had for myself and my sisters the deep respect your father and your mother had for you and your sisters. I could say I’m envious. But I’m not. I love my life–now retired. I’m blogging for my adult children as well–now in their 40s. I want them to know the truth about me. Not because I fear a disease might rob me of my memory (though that could happen), but because I’ve been ashamed and afraid to tell my stories until the last few years. Thanks for your easy-to-follow sequencing! I’ve read the first two installments, and will be back for more! Thank you kindly for the follow. I’ve reciprocated!
    Gratefully,
    Elouise

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  9. Fiona says:

    What a tremendous legacy you are leaving your family. Although I have memories of stories told by my parents, it was only after they had both died, that we found photographs of them and their families. No dates or names or anything on the back of those pictures to record either the people or the events. Thanks for stopping by my blog, and which got me to visit here.

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  10. This is so beautifully said! I would like to write a letter like that to my son one day! It’s very impressing!

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  11. Hi J T Weaver, Thanks for stopping by Eat2Health and joining our community; we hope that you have enjoyed your visit? Also thanks so much for introducing us to your blog- it’s such a thought-provoking and lovely concept!🙂 So much history and pivotal information can be lost due to lack of communication and/or fear of expressing emotion (or being vulnerable); hopefully more parents and relatives will learn to divulge and share the integral parts of their life as you have here. Best wishes, Lynn & Alex

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  12. lghoelson says:

    You have a great blog site. Is that your boat? Was wondering if it’s a Chris-Craft.
    I’ve had a similar idea on doing my blog as something to leave behind for the kids to look at and the great grand-kids. I will be back to visit, thanks for stopping by My Mixed Blog.

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  13. chattykerry says:

    Thank you for visiting Postcards from Kerry. What a wonderful idea to create a blog for your children. My mother in law has latter stage Alzheimer’s but we already shared many memories. Happy Thanksgiving.

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  14. milliethom says:

    This is a lovely way to show how much you care for your children. It’s wonderful that you are able to pass onto them so much of their heritage, which you evidently treasure yourself. I’ll look forward to reading some of your stories.

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  15. That is a very thoughtful thing you are doing for your family and thank you for following my blog. I have a relative that died of Alzheimer’s too so it does creep into the back of my mind at times.

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  16. Annie says:

    You have a lovely blog and a touching About page. Thank you for following my blog.

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  17. leggypeggy says:

    Thanks so much for the follow on my travel blog. What a wonderful reason for you to create your own blog. I’m going to enjoy reading your stories. How old are Sarah and Patrick now?

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  18. Conor Bofin says:

    This post strikes cords with me on many levels. My dear father died at age 63, when I was 29. We only got to know each other properly after Dad was diagnosed with a terminal illness. My two daughters never knew him. I regret that as they would have loved him the way they love my Mum. I admire what you are doing. I suppose I am doing something similar through the food posts and nonsensical story telling over on my own blog. Thanks for visiting the blog and leading me back.
    Best,
    Conor

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  19. Thank you so much for visiting my blog. I was deeply moved by this post, my husband’s mother has very advanced Alzheimer’s and I have known her since my early teens. She’s like a second mother to me. I love that you wrote this for your family. I’m looking forward to reading more of your blog, thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings.

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  20. A very moving letter. Thank you so much for following my blog and will follow yours. Look forward to more posts. Thanks again.

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  21. Malaika says:

    This is a great idea. One of the main reasons I blog is to leave something for my children to read! Thank you for visiting my blog:)

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  22. Nick Fox says:

    Terrific project, JT. I wish you all the luck in the world.

    –Nick Fox

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  23. exoligu says:

    So, you write for your children to know you better. I consider it a good argument for writing on blog.

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  24. theotherjc says:

    Thanks for passing by my blog and choosing to follow

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  25. lorieb says:

    thanks for visiting and following my blog!

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  26. Eliza says:

    Thank you so much for visiting and following my blog. I love what you have written for your children, it is beautiful. God bless us.

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  27. Sonu Duggal says:

    Hi, thank you so very much for stopping by and following my blog.

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  28. Wally Fry says:

    Thank you for following my blog. I look forward to reading things around here!

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  29. Naomi says:

    Hi J T Weaver,

    This quote is just beautiful: “If that time should come, at least I will have documented the pivotal moments in my life so that you can better understand who I am. I do this for you out of the deepest respect for who you have become. It is my hope that you will show that same respect for your own children and document those pivotal moments in your own lives for them.”

    I am not a parent but I believe if I was I would want to have the attitude of love and service towards my children that you are displaying.

    BTW, I also want to thank you for visiting my site and following along. I’ve followed you back as your writing is very inspiring. Hope you continue to write posts that make others think and reflect on how they can live their lives in a less self-centred way. I am sure you will.

    If you have a spare 5 minutes, I’d like to encourage you to read the following post on my site:
    https://aeon01.wordpress.com/do-you-have-5-minutes-click-here-to-be-saved/

    Take care and God bless you.🙂
    Naomi

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  30. Akhiz says:

    Thanks for the follow, you have a wonderful blog🙂

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  31. Living Love says:

    This is absolutely inspiring, I love this so much, what a fantastic idea and view on life and parenting. It is actually heart warming and makes one think a little swifter on, if they had to document it in such a way, what kind of a life they are leaving for their young to see!

    Thank You for being such an eye-opening blogger. No wonder you have so many awards. Congratulations on your success🙂

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  32. jorgekafkazar says:

    Just stopped in to say hello and mosey around the site.

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  33. RobbyeFaye says:

    Thank you for visiting and following my blog. I have followed back.
    You have a very nice blog-thoughtful.
    God’s Blessings1

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  34. I noticed you visited my blog earlier. Thanks for stopping by and I hope you enjoyed😉 I look forward to seeing your posts. I’ve liked what I’ve seen so far. Wonderful sentiment.

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  35. What a beautiful blog you have, such a loving thing to do, thank you for stopping by and for following mine.

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