Be Counted

Each of us is the product of what we learned growing up.  Each of us incorporated what we learned into our own personalities and a new person emerged.  That person has an individual interpretation of right vs wrong or meat vs vegan.  There are now over 6 billion individual people searching for that one true path of peace and harmony.

And so you grow to physical maturity and venture out into the world with the hopes of finding that one true love whose compatibility to you lends itself to your pursuit of that true path.  If you believe that only perfect compatibility is good enough, you will live a lonely life with no spouse and no children.  The trick in this life is to find someone whose true path is close enough to yours where a new and satisfying path is traveled by you both.

Now the decisions begin and with them the compromises.  How far are you willing to stray from your path?  How often are you willing to exclaim, ‘whatever you want to do’ without inserting your opinions into the conversation?  Each time you ‘give up because it’s just not worth it,’ you move further away from your own path.  Before long, you find that your two paths have not combined into a new one.  At some point you will discover that you are now traveling on someone else’s path.  Because you failed to stand up for what you believe each time a decision was made, you now follow in the footsteps of another.  Is that what you want?  No?  What are you going to do about it?

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About J T Weaver

The author of "Uphill Both Ways," a thought provoking series of stories about life, family, and growing up.
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24 Responses to Be Counted

  1. Jean Alphin says:

    Thank You,for sharing,such a good post.


  2. josna says:

    Thank you for this one. Sometimes it just isn’t worth fighting, but most of the time respecting oneself and one’s partner or friend enough to have that difficult conversation brings people closer together in the long run.

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  3. Amanda Banks says:

    Hi, I am sure I remember visiting your blog a couple of months ago to read that you are no longer blogging… Glad I stopped by on the off chance to see that that is not the case… Thanks for the good read!


  4. xmk75 says:

    It seems to me one should first try to be “compatible” with his/her ideal self. Then, compatibility with other people is a piece of cake!-)


  5. karinvandenbergh says:

    “Staying true to your heart” .. it’s becoming a cliché but most of us don’t even know what that is, but if we finally do know it can be both challenging ‘fearful’ – in releasing some of the ties and attachments we live – and joyfully liberating at the same time. Thought-provoking questions. I enjoy your writing.


  6. phin sprague says:

    One of the commandments is about lying. Silence can become a bitter lie.


  7. Julie Phelps says:

    I believe you nailed it on the head! Coincidentally – or intentionally – once I searched for alignment in key areas instead of perfect compatibility I found what feels just like TOTAL rightness and compatibility. Had lots of reading between the lines of online profiles to make it happen though 🙂


  8. Reblogged this on peacefulblessedstar and commented:



  9. The key ingredient, I believe is to know what your own values are. In life and in business I have discovered that often people don’t know what their values are. Therefore they cannot decide which battles are important enough to fight. They either fight none of the battles, or let life become a battle. Great thought provoking piece.


  10. Robin says:

    I think about this often. With my life, and the compromises I have made career-wise (making a great living vs. what really interests me), and with my 9 year old, as I instruct him how to cope with give and take, and compromise with friends. Kids wish there was a black and white answer to this but sadly, it’s most gray…. Enjoyed your post!


  11. Hm, in life and love, go for best, not perfect, alright!

    Thank you very much for giving something to think about in regards with life and love, JT!


  12. thepoetx says:

    I appreciate your insight on the growth and maturation of love and life. I weite poetry to explain similar concepts. Check it out


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