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Retirement and Irrelevance

Teenagers think they know everything, yet they know almost nothing about life. They are barely educated and lack even the smallest morsels of life’s experience. They think their parents are old and out of touch. They truly believe they can … Continue reading

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Will you still need me, will you still feed me,

Sir Paul McCartney wrote “When I’m Sixty-Four” when he was only 16. I first heard it on the “Sgt. Peppers Lonely Hearts Club Band” album when I was 16. At the time, it was nothing more than another really good … Continue reading

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Uphill Both Ways

Now that my relationship with Amazon has ended, I am very happy to once again make the entire compliment of Uphill Both Ways available on this blog.  I have organized the book on a new page Uphill Both Ways to … Continue reading

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A wife’s letter to her childless husband on Father’s Day

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? I lay in bed the other night, hands crossed over my heart and legs pin-straight, and thought of those words: This is not about me at all, is it? This is all about…

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30 is such a good age.  You’re close enough to your prime in your 20s, yet now growing into a nice maturity where you make fewer mistakes and enjoy life more.  You might be getting married or even starting a … Continue reading

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The Plant Speaketh

Today I sit in the quiet of the morning with the faint tap of rain on the roof and the click of my keyboard. It’s a perfect writing atmosphere. A little while ago, I heard a little whispered voice say, … Continue reading

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103 People Unfriended Her, How Many Would Do the Same to Me

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I came across a Huffington post about a woman who posted pictures of herself on her Facebook wall that caused a collapse in her social circle.  The headline said “When Beth Posted…

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Children? Really?

Are you thinking about having a ‘mini-me’ running around the house?  If you and your partner have functioning biological equipment, you’re good to go.  And if you don’t, you can even adopt.  There’s no experience or qualifications necessary and there … Continue reading

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Be Counted

Each of us is the product of what we learned growing up.  Each of us incorporated what we learned into our own personalities and a new person emerged.  That person has an individual interpretation of right vs wrong or meat … Continue reading

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A Romantic Plea

Let’s say that you’re one half of a happily married couple and that you’ll be married for 50 years before one of you passes into the great beyond. In that 50 year time period, you will have been married 18,250 … Continue reading

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The 270

Recently I completed a writing exercise to help keep my mind active and my writing fresh.  As most of you know, I usually write stories that are in the 1000 word range and they seem to end when they end.  … Continue reading

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Family – An Introspection

I was called by many names in my lifetime: baby, sibling, teenager, Uncle, In-law, parent, grand parent.  At each stage, I took pieces of this journey and grew.  I am not my father yet many see him in my eyes … Continue reading

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63. If Only This Was Possible

“Dad!  Is that you?” “Of course, you don’t recognize your own father?” “Well, …  you look terrific, I mean, … when I last saw you 10 years ago …” “Ya, Alzheimer’s does that to you.  You look pretty chipper for … Continue reading

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62. Lazy

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My father was a Mechanical Engineer.  That was how he defined himself.  Sure, he retired as the Executive Vice-President of the company where he worked for 42 years, but he was always an engineer first.  The precision necessary for the … Continue reading

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61. Water, Air, and Dirt

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My father was a bit of a pocket philosopher.  There wasn’t an occasion or event that couldn’t be summed by a clever quip that he had learned while growing up.  Some of these clever quips turned into what appeared to … Continue reading

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60. The Commute to Work

I drove to work for nearly 30 years.  Only briefly did I ever have a passenger along.  There was always some excuse for that.  My hours were often strange or I lived in places where no one else lived.  Of … Continue reading

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59. The Last Visit

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The new century has not been kind to us.  In 2001 Barbara passed away from Cancer at the age of 60.  In 2003 my father had passed away from Alzheimer’s at the age of 89.  In 2005 Elinor passed away, … Continue reading

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58. Our Dinner Table

Both Mom and I had been raised with the tradition of the evening meal at the dinner table.  So it was easy for us to adopt the same traditions for our family.  Mom had eaten dinner many times at my … Continue reading

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57. Williamsburg

Karen and I absolutely loved living together in Massachusetts.  It is a place of beauty from the Blue Mountains to Cape Ann to Cape Cod.  It is a place that has mastered the culinary arts with those resources locally available … Continue reading

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56. Do Me A Favor

Michal Weber arrived in Shamokin, PA, Northumberland County, from Stuttgart, Germany around 1770, changed his name to Michal Weaver, and the family with most of its branches would always live there.  He volunteered to fight for his new country and … Continue reading

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55. The Micros

As the children begin to grow into their own, there is always an event that tells the parent that each child is different. This event is different from what foods they like or their favorite color. In our family, the … Continue reading

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54. Not Just Another Tulip Story

I guess you would think that I had nothing better to do while working in that nice office in Falls Church, VA. but look out the window. That woodpecker and I sparred for a few weeks it’s true, but that … Continue reading

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53. The Pileated Woodpecker

As the children were getting a bit older, it was finally time to share some of my own stories at the dinner table. Some of those stories were repetitions of those my father had told me, but some, like the … Continue reading

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52. Grover

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We first saw this starving, flea-bitten street dog shortly after we moved here.  Patrick was riding his tricycle on the driveway and this strange dog came up the driveway behind him.  When my son turned around, the dog was there … Continue reading

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51. Beginning To Grow Up

When Sarah was very young, I was blessed with the task of comforting her before bedtime. I would sing to her and gently dance with her until she fell asleep. It became a tradition and when Patrick was born I … Continue reading

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50. Settling In

The schools in the area surrounding the new house were reportedly very good and our future was bright. Sarah and Patrick thrived at this new house. We were in the middle of the Civil War [locally referred to as The … Continue reading

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49. Nantucket and Atom Ant

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The remaining 25 of us on the program at GTE were notified on May 1st that we would be going to Northern Virginia on temporary assignment (TDY) on June 1, 1991.  The TDY would last for 6 months and then … Continue reading

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48. The Transfer

During this time I had continued to work for GTE Government Systems.  I was working on a very important DoD software development program that would eventually be used in the 1991 Persian Gulf War and I was having a great … Continue reading

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47. The Interruption

When Sarah was four and Patrick had yet to experience his second birthday, something happened. It was something that I swore I would never let happen. In my job, I had shunned travel assignments or any other interruptions to my … Continue reading

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46. The Art of Behavior Modification

As a new parent, you are faced with so many challenges, but one of the earliest is trying to control the situation. We had already decided that when our children did something good, we would reward and when they did … Continue reading

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45. Now The Work Begins

So far, in our short married life, my wife and I had made a few conscious decisions. Among other things, we decided we wanted to have a girl and a boy and if that happened right away, our family would … Continue reading

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44. And Then There Were Two

We found out we were pregnant in March of 1989. Yes, we, as I have always believed that creating a family isn’t just, ‘you’re pregnant and I’m along for the ride.’ We were growing our family together and we couldn’t … Continue reading

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43. Emulation and the Thrill

Here are a few notable examples of life at our house in those early days. We had a nice little patch of lawn at our house in Lakeville. It was perhaps 12,000 square feet and it took me about an … Continue reading

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42. Boston Children’s Hospital

This is a story about two events; one where an 18-month-old child gets very sick and another about how life has changed in the last 25 years. We had just returned from a road trip to Maryland. Sarah seemed to … Continue reading

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41. How Many?

In those early days when we first began considering parenthood, the question of ‘how many children do you want to have?’ was always a part of the discussion. I would always answer that ‘six is a good number,’ and my … Continue reading

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40. The First Days

After my wife had been given 48 hours to recover, our new family of three was headed home. The new car seat was inspected first by the hospital staff, approved, and off we went. My mother-in-law had arrived for a … Continue reading

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39. The Road To Parenting

In a previously written post, “You Better Hurry Up,” I told the story of how my father very logically suggested that at 36 I was getting a little old for children. While I didn’t appreciate his interference, I did heed … Continue reading

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38. You Had Better Hurry Up

Karen and I were having a wonderful time together as newlyweds.  We were learning a lot about each other, enjoying our jobs, and enjoying, for the most part, cookouts at my parents house.  We did, however feel the political background … Continue reading

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37. The Bat

Karen had grown up in a log cabin at New Germany State Park in Garrett County, Western Maryland where her father was the Park Manager.   So she was used to a wide variety of creatures that roamed the woods.  Bear, … Continue reading

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36. The Food of the Cape

When I took the job at AT&T, part of the move was to rent the apartment that was available in a building that Elinor owned.  Her mother (Gram) lived on the first floor, her nephew Gary lived on the second … Continue reading

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35. Oracle

One of the first things Karen wanted to do when we got back from our honeymoon was find a good job.  The job market wasn’t that bad in 1985 and so she had a lot of choices.  One ad that … Continue reading

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34. The Cows

I had never considered myself to be a particularly funny person.  Oh sure I could tell a joke if I was forced into it, but I was more known for the bizarre way I looked at things.  (See Temperature or … Continue reading

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33. The Wave

This is such a simple thing.  It’s used as a greeting, a salutation, a parting gesture, and sometimes even an epithet signifying the owners’ ignorance.  But we all wave at people that we know and don’t know as a way … Continue reading

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32. The One You Waited For, Part 2

I got home very late Thursday night, completely exhausted (that happens when you get 3 hours of sleep a night), and full of thoughts of San Francisco.  I spent my day off on Friday walking and thinking.  I walked to … Continue reading

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31. The One You Waited For, Part 1

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Well, my children this is the one.  This is the story that you have heard at the dinner table countless times, debated by your mother and I as to how this or that happened, and always ending the same way … Continue reading

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30. Keep on Keepin’ On

The strangest thing happened.  The one person that had been tearing me down for years, the person that had confederated with Barbara to find fault in everything I did, called me on the telephone.  Elinor told me that I had … Continue reading

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29. My New Life

My decision to return home and marry Paula was not well received by my family.  Generally they were pleased that I was doing well in San Francisco and pleased that they didn’t have to deal with ‘that’ girl.  Elinor and … Continue reading

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28. Teacher of the Basics

I had a nice career in the computer science field.  In almost every respect my daily life was highly technical and high pressure, but I loved every minute of every day.  But it was all very accidental.  I had worked … Continue reading

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27. San Francisco

 “The coldest winter I ever spent was a summer in San Francisco” – probably Mark Twain. I arrived in San Francisco on a sunny Friday afternoon in August 1975.  What a beautiful city!  I was having dinner at a small … Continue reading

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26. Trying to Fix It

In the five years since I had lived with Greg and John there were some substantial changes to my life.  Despite my efforts to the contrary, I had learned a lot at school.  The Viet Nam war ended, and with … Continue reading

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